Some parents have a very hard time choosing between staying home with their children or going to work and in these tough times more parents need to go to work.
Well to make it an even tougher choice, is when you drop your child off and he or she cries and seems so sad to be left. Children tend to cry because of the adjustment hasn’t been made yet or some other unclear stress. Young children are not developed mentally and lack the ability to know how time works or have the capability to think about the future. They only know and feel your trust and can’t comprehend that someone else will also keep them safe and fill their needs. Children learn this through life experiences and have not gone through the cycle of this particular situation.
There are many things you can do to help your child work through this sadness and figure out how to make it work.
Help your child adjust gradually by getting to the class a little earlier and spend some time with your child in the space. Your child will feel the comfort of your security in the place where his or her day will be spent. You can try leaving after and hour then gradually reduce your time spent until it is just a swift drop off.
Stay consistent with the schedule because young children do not have the ability to tell time but they sure can feel it and sense what comes next. Work to keep schedules the same so your child can predict what comes next.
You should let your child bring a familiar object with them. Whether it be a favorite stuffed animal, a picture, a blanket or anything that can remind them of home that bring them comfort.
A child needs to build a bond with their caregiver and this can take some time.
”This is a time of partnership and shared care giving with parents.” Says Polly Peace, Executive Director for The Country Childrens Center in Katonah.” It’s important to provide a nurturing environment of warm, supportive, dependable adult contact where the child can develop a sense of security and trust. We offer care that is highly individualized, each infant having a primary caregiver, consistently available to interact, provide mobility, and access and respond immediately to the child’s needs. It is important for the child to feel secure and to build a foundation of trust while moving towards a degree of independence and autonomy in a safe and caring environment. Personal self-help skills such as feeding, dressing and toileting should be fostered according to individual readiness and in partnership with parents.”
“I was having such a hard time leaving my daughter who is 3 years old. She would cry when we would leave the house and hold on to me for dear life as I would leave. I would get in my car and cry and feel terrible the whole day. Polly and her staff helped my daughter and I with the transition and within just a few days my daughter was so happy, she even asked to go playschool when she was off. So thankful to have found The Country Childrens Center and highly recommend this wonderful place.” Victoria S. Pound Ridge, NY
The Country Childrens Center has many locations and is proud to be opening a new program at West Patent Elementary school in Oct.
The Country Childrens Center, Inc.
PO Box 91 Katonah, New York 10536
phone:914 242 0520 extension 201
